Saturday, June 18, 2011

Mother's Day 2011

Tyler giving us a play by play description of his last big hit.

Don't ask about the sombrero.

Aidan's pre-k graduation

Aidan's pre-k Luau Graduation (5/26/11)

Adoption Meeting - Talking to your child about their birthfamily & adoption

We had an amazing meeting for our adoption group last night.

It was about telling your kids about their birthfamily and their adoption. The presenters were outstanding; 2 women, around my age, one is a birthmom and the other is an adult adoptee. They are both professional, well established women in their own right. They were open, honest and so informative.

I may not have the "perfect" life, to be honest, who does??? But I know I am very blessed. Being part of this adoption group and meeting birthmoms, adult adoptees and other members of the adoption triad is priceless. These meetings, it's members and our guest speakers have given us the tools that we need to be better parents and a better support system not only to our children but to their birth families.

Throughout our adoption journey I have come across some birthmoms who have such a feeling of loss and regret. My heart breaks for them. But, the more birthmom's that I speak with (not anonomysly -ie via the web) the more I see that they are happy that they chose adoption for their child. The speakers from last night's adoption meeting give us a lot of information regarding how so many birthmoms, after choosing adoption, go on to fulfill their dreams and the overwhelming majority of them are confident that adoption was the best choice for their child and for them. That does not mean it was the easiest choice. I wish I had all of the information regarding this research in front of me to share with you.

I can go on and on about this topic but I know my time is limited. The boys will be up soon and then it's off to soccer and t-ball. I love Saturdays!!!

Still here

I believe I have said this oh about 1,000 times. But I am terrible at blogging. It's not that I don't want to it's just that the days slip away so quickly.
We are still here, we are still praying to add to our family through adoption.
To be honest, I am hardly on the computer, as many of you can see by my fb page, and when I am, it's trying to look up site on adoption and advocate for our family.

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

"Everything to Me" by Mark Schultz

We love our's birthmom so very much because she gave him life!!

grab some tissues and watch this when you can

Here are the lyrics to this beautiful song:

I must have felt your tears
When they took me from your arms
I'm sure I must have heard you say goodbye
Lonely and afraid had you made a big mistake
Could an ocean even hold the tears you cried

But you had dreams for me
You wanted the best for me
And you made the only choice you could that night

You gave life to me
A brand new world to see
Like playing baseball in the yard with dad at night
Mom reading Goodnight Moon
And praying in my room
So if you worry if your choice was right
You gave me up but you gave everything to me

And if I saw you on the street
Would you know that it was me
And would your eyes be blue or green like mine
Would we share a warm embrace
Would you know me in your heart
Or would you smile and let me walk on by
Knowing you had dreams for me
You wanted the best for me
And I hope that you'd be proud of who I am

You gave life to me
A chance to find my dreams
And a chance to fall in love
You should have seen her shining face
On our wedding day
Oh is this the dream you had in mind
When you gave me up
You gave everything to me

And when I see you there
Watching from heaven's gates
Into your arms
I'm gonna run
And when you look in my eyes
You can see my whole life
See who I was
And who I've become

Thursday, May 5, 2011

Adoption, The Emotional Roller

For those of you who have been here, you know the ups and downs that one faces when trying to adopt. You hear nothing for so long and then all of a sudden there are multiple possibilities and then..... POOF...... they are gone. It is so very frustrating to have the fate of your family in someone else's hands. Don't get me wrong, we know there are people out there who have been waiting to adopt for way longer than we have but, it doesn't make us hurt any less.

Someone said to me tonight that it will happen as soon as we stop waiting for it to happen. Geeze, I hope that's not true because then it will never happen. We are waiting for our adoption phone to ring. We are checking our adoption e-mail account. Adopting is something we think about everyday. We are not letting it consume our lives but it is a huge part of it.

For anyone who wants a child, who longs to have a baby to love and cherish unconditionally and whole heatedly, the waiting for your child is rough, regardless of how he/she comes to you, through birth or through adoption. We have been down both roads and neither one was smooth sailing but, we wouldn't change it for the world and we know we will feel the same when we hold our new baby in our arms.
We were blessed with Aidan.

And we were blessed once again with Tyler.

Easter - yes, I know it was 2 weeks ago :-)

We had a great time coloring eggs. Thankfully we did it a couple of days before Easter, just enough time for the dye to wear off.

We had Easter at our house this year. It was unbelievably hot, most of the kids changed out of their Easter outfits pretty quickly. The kids looked for the 120 eggs, don't know what I was thinking doing that many. I'm sure we'll still be finding some in the upcoming weeks, hope their not the ones with the chocolate.
here's to Pez, jelly beans & chocolate before  7:30 am - hey, it's once a year!